Okay, listen up because I’m about to learn you a thing or two about why Tumblr has become complete and utter shit. What used to be a place where ideas, creativity, interest, intelligent conversation, and basically enlightening fun thrived, has now turned into a warzone of hormonal teenagers vomiting and menstruating all over each other. This has all come from different groups of people waging war on others. These can come back to Feminists, MRAs, LGBTs, Genderfluids, Special Little Snowflakes, fat-bloggers, fandoms, high/drunk bloggers, emo-fags, spam pages, SJWs, mentally disordered, and trigger warners. None of these groups were around even remotely to the extent that they are now, and none of them ruled over the site the way they do today. So I’m going to go through each group and tell you what’s wrong with each and every one of them.
Feminists- oh god, they’re some of the worst on this site. Seriously, some of these people are deranged psychopaths that shouldn’t be allowed outside without a leash or within 300 feet of an elementary school. I mean, look at some of the big names that head front feminists these days, Misandrymolly and Hurtingmalefeelings. They’re basically walking shitfests that spew any hateful rhetoric that comes to mind as long as men, whites, cisgenders, women, and basically anybody but radical feminists are at the end of it. Where some feminists in India are fighting to end real social issues surrounding females like gendercide and female dowry violence, feminists in first world countries are fighting to make sure all your male protagonists in video games have an equal female counterpart. It’s just disheartening to see that something as important as equality among genders has turned into people shitty on facts and supporting false causes. I’ve heard multiple feminists try to make the argument that a male touching a female’s skin, even if he’s simply tapping her shoulder to get attention, is equivalent to rape. I mean, really? Get over yourself, lady. You’re only minimal using the experiences of those that have encountered real sexual abuse, assault, and trauma. Also, if you tried to look at those scary things called facts, you’ll see that there’s actually almost no difference in rates that males and females get raped and abused, and that the wage gap is a myth created to rally dicksacks like you to their cause. There is no patriarchy in America or the UK, and really, it’s just better for everyone if you could learn to keep your mouth shut if you’re not educated on the matter.
MRAs- UGH, they’re almost as bad as feminists. They just sound like fedora-wielding ass-sticks that will find just about anything to whine about. While I’ll give them the credit that they do make a few good points and their arguments are based around fact, not propaganda, and I’ve seen them more times than not cite their sources, they still go about their message horribly. They sound like they don’t have an actual platform, but instead like to just shit all over the feminists (and while they may deserve it at times, it doesn’t make them the bigger man by any means). I mean, haven’t you heard “don’t fight fire with fire”? They make the same emotion-fueled shit-headed arguments that they rip on feminists for making. YOUR PARENTS CHOOSING TO CIRCUMSIZE YOU AS A CHILD IS NOT THE GREATEST INJUSTICE IN HUMAN HISTORY. It’s nowhere even remotely comparable to forced genital mutilation practiced on afghan women. Seriously, there’s a few good points you guys make, but stick to those, don’t bother being twat-storms for the sake of “getting back” at feminists; it simply makes you look incredibly immature.
LGBTs- Okay, before I start on this issue, just because it can be touchy, I’d like to point out that I am a transgendered black woman with many gay friends that agree on these points, so shut up before you send any “check your privilege” or “die white cishet male scum”. While there’s nothing wrong with being gay, lesbian, trans, whatever, there is a problem when you take it overboard. Why can’t you just chill out? Just because you’re gay or trans doesn’t mean that your entire life has to revolve around it. You can be whatever you want to be without being sure to mention it every other sentence. You don’t see no hetero people walking around parading their sexual orientation, talking about how much they love being straight. Even though a heteros are anti-LGBT, that don’t give you the right to do the same to them. Some of you people disgust me with the way you treat others, like they’re below you for being a different sexuality. You’re no better than they are at that point. Sometimes I’m afraid to even mention that I’m trans online, because I know some people are gonna be all offput because of the way some trans people treat them. Seriously, just learn to respect them and hopefully they’ll do the same to you.
Genderfluids- Seriously now? Are you really gonna complain that somebody isn’t gonna respect your gender if you say you’re some “non-binary, two-spirited, intergendered, gender-queer on Wednesdays, heterotransic 11.345% maletrans octosexual otherkin”. I mean, are you really in the right to get upset if somebody calls you “he” or “dude” and not your pretentious nineteen-word gender title? I was born a man and felt like I should be female, and although I haven’t gotten an operation yet due to lack of money, I’ve undergone hormone therapies. And you know, I identify as a trans woman, and that’s where it ends. You can be gay, lesbian, trans, asexual, whatever you want, but if it starts going further than that, you can’t be upset if others don’t respect it. I can say that I’m a 1998 Subaru Outback, and I can full-heartedly believe it too, but that don’t mean I can demand others to refer to me as that or to have to be wary of all car models in case they run into someone that identifies that way. You don’t have to be a special little snowflake with a sexuality or gender that you and three other people in the world share. You can simply be just Britney or Shane or whoever the fuck you may be.
Special Little Snowflakes- You’re not a unique little delicate snowflake that needs to be pampered and recognized at every second. You’re not some otherworldly being sent down from the heavens to grace us with your sublime uniqueness and weirdly-shaped schlong. You’re simply another person in this world of seven billion+ people. You may be one in a million, but that means there’s still 7,000 others just like you. You don’t need to CONSTANTLY shove it in people’s faces how fucking special you are and how everybody should be so marvelously entranced by how fucking unique you can be. If you’re a girl that likes girls, your a lesbian, not some “omnisexual homoqueer that prefers women” (see above). You don’t need to have a title for every last thing that describes you, and you sure as hell don’t need no fucking people to notice how introverted and deep you think you are. You’re actually no different than anyone else and that’s just something you’re gonna have to come to terms with. Those bitches and jocks that you like to call stupid because their way of life is different than yours, they’re not any better or worse than you are. There ain’t nothing wrong with conforming to the way society does something if it’s not harmful. You’re not a sheep for liking sports, the same way you’re not a geek for liking video games or a diva for liking fashion. They’re all just interests and if you and your hipster scum think you’re better than everyone for being different, then you and all them rectal-swabs can go fuck yourselves.
Fat-Bloggers- Now, I ain’t against fat people and I don’t hate anybody because of their weight, but what I do hate is people that have “fat pride”. The whole notion that everybody is beautiful and that people have “thin-privilege” is absurd and you should be ashamed of yourselves. Some people have trouble losing weight due to illness, thyroid disorders, genetics, whatever, and I get that, but that don’t mean that fat is beautiful. You’re still less appealing than a person at a healthy weight, and that may suck, but you can either do something about it or deal with it. It’s perfectly okay to shame somebody because of their weight if they are in fact obese and unhealthy. You may have a great personality and be a good person, but your body suggests only one thing, and that’s that you’re unhealthy. It’s not shallow to say that you aren’t beautiful because you’re fat, it’s simply evolution. Even animals will choose mates that appear healthier than those that appear unhealthy. That’s largely determined by body shape to humans. It’s not an injustice for American Eagle to not carry shirts in XXXXXL, it’s marketing. If you have a problem with the way people see you, then do something about it. Don’t sit on the couch eating Cheetos and complaining on tumblr that people have “thin-privilege” or that nobody finds you attractive or try to demand that people find your gross obese body beautiful. Do something to fix yourself and maybe things will start looking a bit brighter for you.
Fandoms- You fuckers realize you’re the most annoying little shits to happen to this website, right? Superwholock? Are you fucking kidding me? Just the fact that this is a commonplace word on the site is disgusting. Is it actually impossible to just simply like something without going overboard with it? I like Zelda and fashion, but do you see me never shutting up about either and making sure to bomb each thread with gifs of OoT or Victoria’s Secret Fashion Shows? No, because there a thing called self-control. If you say that you’re addicted to Sherlock or Doctor Who or Supernatural or Homestuck or MLP or whatever the fuck you like, then that’s unhealthy. That’s not something to be proud of. And most of all, that’s not something others outside of your fandom want to be exposed constantly to. Why the fuck do you need a 23-gif set of Sherlock licking his lips? Why do you feel that others want to see that shit? I’ll give you a heads-up, NOBODY GIVES A SHIT ABOUT YOUR SHITTY FANDOM. At the end of the day, it’s simply a TV show or a movie or a book or whatever. It’s nothing that your life needs to revolve around and it certainly isn’t anything that others need to hear about. And it’s even more disgusting with your “shipping” and drawing the two characters fucking and shit. A lot of these actors are married men and women that you’re drawing or photoshopping with other people. That shit ain’t right. You even take the most ridiculous shit and ship them, like fucking John Malkovich and the lamp from A Christmas Story or some shit like that. And then you get upset when the producers of the movie/show/whatever don’t fan-pander to your shitty canons? It’s just ridiculous. I’ve seen Sherlock and Dr. Watson is a heterosexual male that is married to a woman. Big deal, fucking deal with it. They don’t go off secretly in the night to fuck, they’re not gay lovers because he “looked at him a certain way” and if you contribute to that mentality you’re part of what’s brought this website to shit.
High/Drunk bloggers- Nobody thinks that you’re cool for being drunk/high. Nobody thinks that you’re hilarious when you are. Nobody gives a shit what you’re smoking/drinking. Seriously, NOBODY GIVES A SHIT.
Emos- I’ve never seen such a large group of attention-hungry, self-pitying, bunch of hormonal teens than when I joined tumblr, and I used to volunteer at a behavioral health center. We’d get people that would come in with dozens of stitches running down the length of their arm because they’d had a gang coming after them or their parents had both died or their spouses of ten years were cheating on them. And you’re going to constantly talk about slitting your wrists and killing yourselves because your crush likes somebody else? Get the fuck over yourself. There’s people with real problems out there and you’re going to kill yourself because your parents yelled at you for being a little shit? If you’re thinking of killing yourself, don’t go around constantly telling others how miserable you are or trying to get pity or attention from them. Go and talk to a professional, a hotline, whatever. Talk to those that can make things better for you, not those that you know will shower you in compliments if you tell them you’re planning on ending your life. And if you’re so stubborn that you REFUSE to get help, then you may as well go through with it. But you know that you won’t, because that’s not what any of this has been about, has it? As much as you may not want to admit it, you want to live, you want things to be okay. And there’s people equipped to help you get there. Maybe your crush won’t ever like you back, but you can’t have everything you want, now can you? That doesn’t mean that just because things didn’t go 100% in your favor you have to end your life. But that’s all a personal decision. All I ask is that I don’t have to hear about it every ten minutes.
Spam pages- Tumblr had always been an anti-corporate, anti-capitalist place where creativity thrived. But now it’s overrun with sponsored ads and links to websites likeilikeit.com and shit that gets cash for each visit. I get why tumblr needs sponsored ads and why anal-rag pages like to spam links to shitty websites, it’s just kind of annoying.
SJWs- It’s pretty well known that these bruised bananas are the shit that makes tumblr as terrible as it is. They’re like the package that all these other groups arrive in, and they try to justify every last action committed by these groups. They’re so fucking obsessed with political correctness that they can’t be bothered to think for themselves, and literally anytime somebody opens their mouth, they take offense to it. They try to speak on behalf of every minority and majority out there, and their rule is law. If you try to go against a SJW or try to point out a flaw in a single one of their arguments, they’ll swarm your ask box with death threats and call you everything from “misogynist” to “homophobic” to “cishet scum”, even if you’re not by any means. As far as they’re concerned, they are always right and anybody that opposes them is literally Hitler with a jetpack. While also encompassing nearly all the traits of these other groups, they will act as a shield to these groups, justifying the actions of the minority regardless of the case, and shunning the majority any chance they get. They also live in a warped reality in which everything is oppressive yet they are the most powerful beings to ever exist. Anything that CAN be turned into a problem, WILL be turned into a problem, even if they have to twist your words or make shit up to create one.
Mentally Disordered- Here’s the thing, there’s people that have actual debilitating mental conditions that prevent them from functioning in day-to-day situations, and then there’s the fucking schlong-hatted shits on tumblr that will self-diagnose themselves with a condition and make it seem like their life is ending as a result. If you’re feeling a bit down on this website, you have crippling clinical depression. If you can’t fall asleep without brushing your teeth or you like to count the number of Oreos left in a container after you eat some, you have crippling OCD. If you get nervous during big tests, you have life-threatening anxiety. Any emotion that somebody feels on this website is now automatically converted into a lifelong history of mental illness. At the behavioral health center I used to volunteer at, we once had a soldier come in with severe PTSD. But he had come in because while he was out on the battlefield he had gotten shot in the shoulder. But his OCD was so strong that when he’d gotten home he couldn’t bear the asymmetry of the scar, so he used a handgun and blew a hole in his other shoulder as well. Let me tell you, kids, that’s real mental illness. There’s people who actually can’t function due to their mental illnesses, and you shit-wands have the nerve to call yourselves “depressed” or “OCD” over menial everyday worries? Y’all make me sick.
Trigger Warners- There’s people out there that have made it almost “trendy” or even habitual to tag every post with trigger warnings. I’ve seen somebody trigger warn the word “dogs”. Are you fucking serious? The world isn’t a place that’s made to be completely cozy and comfortable for you. The world will have triggers for you. You’ll see men and women that will look like your rapist, you’ll see alcohol and drugs at parties, you’ll find people screaming at each other. It fucking happens. And if you think that Tumblr is your safe place, you’re sadly mistaken. There’s not going to be warnings in real life, and if you feel the need to mark each post in case somebody gets “triggered”, then you’re doing them more harm than good. You’re creating a mindset that those problems need not be dealt with, that they can be ignored and repressed and everything will be okay. That as long as you never have to think about that traumatic experience and as long as you never make any connections to it, you’re going to live completely happy and free of worry. But that just won’t happen. There will always be those things that you’ll have to deal with. If somebody is to be led to believe that every time they’re going to be triggered, there’s going to be a warning beforehand, what will they do if they unexpectedly see a gun in a movie, a sex scene, drugs, whatever it may be. While you may think you’re being the “good guy”, you’re only inhibiting their ability to recover. Also, if you’re one that demands trigger warnings or you get “triggered” easily, it’s also partially on you to actually work to recover and try to get better. You’re not going to be able to live forever sheltered in your mind, and as hard as it may be, you will have to endure it for quite some time.
Well that’s everything. These are the groups that, along with some people just being genuine assholes, have turned tumblr from a playground of creativity, intelligence, and artful ingenious, into a hateful breeding ground of simultaneous victim and superiority complexes. And if you don’t believe me or you have any reason to doubt anything I’ve said, I urge you to just look through the notes on this.
I agree with much of this. Bit aggressive but well put.
okay, while some good points are made here, i have to dissagree with many others. there will always be people who go overboard with things in any group, but that does not mean the entire group will be the same way, even if those people make up the majority or the most outspoken percentage.
feminists: yes, like every group some people over do it. however that, to me anyway, seems to be a very small percent of the overall group that has been handed a megaphone to voice their opinions while the rest of the participants simply want actual equality. also, the wage gap is a real thing, at least in america, according to both USA Today and NPR even post the equal pay act. in terms of men being sexually abused almost as much as women, that is only PARTIALLY true. in a study done by the CDC 1 in 20 men and women had been exposed to some form of unwanted sexual contact in the 12 months prior to the survey, however 18.3% of women report being sexually assaulted at some point in their lives while it is only 1.4% of men. now listen, i agree that there are social justice issues that more people should be paying attention to, many in fact, that involve unequal rights or outright hatred/oppression towards women, but that does not mean smaller things like women in games and TV is unimportant (in fact i believe that women in the media is something that deserves great attention right now.)
NPR morning addition wage gap: http://www.npr.org/2013/06/10/189280329/50-years-after-the-equal-pay-act-gender-wage-gap-endures (note, this is quite interesting on the subject of how pay changes upon motherhood)
MRAs: The “good points” that the mens rights activists bring to the table are not specific to men, they are just basic human rights.
LGBTs: For many people who are lgbt it is not the center of their entire life, just another part of their identity. For those who do go “overboard”, it’s usually because they are either feeling that their sexuality is being oppressed in their daily lives and they need an outlet for how they feel, or they feel that there is not a wide enough understanding of what the lgbt community is and want to spread their knowledge (i’m sure there are plenty of other reasons, these are simply the prominent ones i have encountered.) also, while i agree that you should not shame ANYONE based on their gender or sexuality, including cis. heterosexuals, i don’t believe that there is a significant enough percentage of people who insult cis.het. people that the entire group can be painted with that brush. also, if people don’t want to talk to you because you’re trans then there is a decent, not certain, but a decent chance that they are not a healthy person to talk to. It’s a fact about you and if they can’t accept that then that is not your problem.
also, take a look at this on sociotal oppression. i find the graph on page 12 particularly interesting. when i look at the part on homophobia, i’m not surprised that some lgbt people can feel hostile towards cis/het. people. i’m not saying that’s right, as i most certainly believe it is not, however i do think that they may feel hostile for the same reasons that some cis/het people may feel the opposite: the way they were raised. : http://www.thetaskforce.org/downloads/reports/reports/SocialDiscriminationAndHealth.pdf
Genderfluids: People who are gender fluid don’t necessarily have some 11 piece gender identity. personally, i identify as gender fluid because i’m not comfortable as a man but i don’t know yet that i want to be a woman, so while on that fence i need a place to be. an i may never find that i am either side. personally i would hope that people would respect that. people have enough problems as it is without having to worry that people will not respect something as societally important as gender (i say societally as i don’t find gender to be a major factor for me in most things). And also, a 1998 subaru outback is a car. items are not genders. i find this comparison insulting and would kindly ask you to not compare me and some of my friends and countless others to an inanimate object. also, your final statements contradicts the entire paragraph. you tell people to go be whoever they want to be, after writing about how they can not be respected for who they are.
there is very little evidence for this as gender fluids are a more recent concept in terms of scientific studies, however i would like you to see this on peer to peer bullying, especially pages 15-27 on lgbt bullying. i am sure you have gone through plenty yourself, but i feel it is important to have the numbers there in front of you: http://www.usccr.gov/pubs/2011statutory.pdf
Special little snowflakes: first off, every individual person is genetically different from every other person, so you are actually 1 in 7 billion. second, what is wrong with having your own, unique, sexual orientation? i mean, the way the world works right now you DO need to have a label for everything. people will always ask you questions about who you are, what you like, what you do, and they will always want an annoyingly specific answer, so if you do not have a label, then you can’t always answer. now, you never really HAVE to answer, but it often feels good to know for yourself. also, you say that people can’t feel like they are better then other people in a speech about how other people should shut up and do what you are dictating? that to me seems yet again contradictory. finally, you are telling people that they are not only not unique, but that they don’t have the right to feel unique. i would not even know where to find evidence on this simply because its common sense that people should be able to be themselves and feel different from others. that is human nature, not specific, individual vanity.
Fat-bloggers: right off the bat i will say this: being fat is different from being unhealthy. an overweight person can be unhealthy, and there are some health risks that come with being obese, but that does not necessarily make them unhealthy. also, beauty is all in the eye of the beholder. just because you do not find overweight people attractive that does not mean that everyone feels the same way. also, it’s not evolution that dictates the overall trend of people finding obesity attractive, it’s society. we, as a society, feel that way now because of the immense prevalence of food in our lives, however at points in history where food was scarece or highly prized, weight was seen as a sign of power.
Fandoms: okay, if fandoms annoy you, blacklist their tags. we only have so many of them. you know why people are in fandoms? because they enjoy them. they are having fun with them and the photoshopping/drawing is not going overboard, it’s just being a bit creative with something you like. of course we know all these actors have lives, and have families, but for the most part we are not editing the actors, we are editing the characters. also, being addicted to a show is not unhealthy in its own right. it can be an excellent outlet for whatever you have going on in your life. i know that personally, with the stressful things going on in my life, i enjoy coming home and spending some time doing things i love, like blogging and watching one of the superwholock shows. again, if the commonplaceness of the word superwholock bothers you, blacklist it. also, i think people do give a shit about our fandoms. a lot of people. everyone in the fandom, so please cease insulting people for collectively loving something.
again, no real evidence as fandoms are not a scientifically recognized phenomenon.
High/drunk bloggers: yah, okay, that is unhealthy. if you are having problems with drugs/alcohol, please refer to one of these places for some help.
Emos: wow. i barely know where to start here. how about the fact that people don’t often cut simply because their crush likes someone else, and the fact that cutting is not emo. it’s usually because they have an actual mental health issue. they are not seeking attention, just help. real problems? i can’t think of a problem more real than hurting yourself for ANY reason. in my experience, when people talk to their friends about the fact that they are considering suicide or self harming or even simply depressed, it’s because when in that state it’s hard enough to feel right around people you’ve known your whole life, let alone some stranger who is supposed to counsel you. in the 5th grade i was diagnosed with clinical depression and at the time all my friends had left. the reason that was hard was i had no way of feeling safe with someone who could provide professional help. you sometimes NEED the shower of compliments, because it is so much more meaningful for someone you have always know to tell you that you have a purpose then for a doctor to tell you that you need to start taking two pills each day. now, i am not saying it is wrong to go to a doctor for help, most DEFINITELY not. the antidepressants are often crucial in helping, but telling your friends almost never hurts. i would like to also politely ask that you do not chalk up self harm and suicide to basic relationship troubles or things not going “100% in your favor”. people often have real issues and things like this can make them afraid of reaching out and asking for help.
never be afraid to call and/or ask for help.
Spam pages: I am in full agreement with you. spam sucks.
SJWs: I do not have much to say on this as i have had few encounters with SJWs but i would hope that this is mostly an exaggeration based on the groups extremists, something you seem to focus heavily on in previous paragraphs. although, i would like to point out your interesting use of the word “literally”, in the sentence “they are always right and anyone who opposes them literally hitler with a jet pack.”
Mentally Disordered: Yes, there are people who have real mental disorders. there are disorders that prevent people from living a normal life. that is horrible. however, just because some are so bad that they incapacitate people that does not mean the seemingly smaller disorders are not important and often terrifying. now yes, there are always people who claim to have disorders because they want to stand out or something, but there are people who are reaching out for help. according to the national institute of mental health 2.2 million people in america suffer from OCD, a disorder you mention multiple times. in fact, the only disorder you cite. there are many people with mental issues that they either can’t or don’t want to hide. those people need support, and when they get hate for making up diseases then that hurts them. it’s always better to give someone the benefit of the doubt when it comes to what they have to deal with on a daily basis. i do however, agree that mental illness in nothing to joke about, and you should abstain from claiming a disorder you do not have. also, over 14 million americans suffer from depression and as i said, 2.2 million ocd. please don’t claim many of those to be over “menial everyday worries”.
Trigger Warners: I am the first to say that i know almost nothing about this phenomena, but from what you described i have question your last paragraph. you claim that people should not be allowed to prevent themselves from viewing things that are traumatic to them, yet you also state that mental disorders are very serious and should be taken so. i fail to see how not keeping someone safe from the things that hurt them is a good thing. that is telling your child to be very afraid of the things that go bump in the night, because someone could potentially at some point in the future break into your house.
I will end with this: you claim these are the groups that have “turned tumblr from a playground of creativity, intelligence, and artful ingenious, into a hateful breeding ground of simultaneous victim and superiority complexes”, but the only way you could see that is by ignoring the beauty all the things you have mentioned have created. fandoms have countless masterful pieces of art from music to paintings to short films. mental health problems are not beautiful, but people can draw inspiration from challenges they face and create incomprehensibly beautiful things. the same with sexuality, and gender, and body image, and the challenges they face. yes, tumblr has changed from what it once was, but that does not mean it is any less artful, any less, beautiful, or any less amazing than it has always been. yes, there will always be people who will screw up this site, but there are people who screw up the world. no where is perfect and no where will stay the same. change is imminent, but not always bad.